We have all lied in our lives. For good or bad reasons. I get it. I used to lie all the time. Even for fun. I can't tell you how many times I have been Irish or Scottish or a transfer student from the U.K. all just because I felt like it. I have also been a huge time liar. I have told people I am in the car on the freeway, when I still have curlers in and a toothbrush hanging out of my mouth. 10 verbal minutes would equate out to 30 real minutes. I have denied sleeping with people, pretty sure I was a virgin at least twice. However it took me a while to catch on to why people shouldn't lie. And it's actually quite simple...you always get caught. Always.
The part that I always had trouble catching on to is why it was such a big deal to be caught. I didn't figure this out until years after I got caught in a huge lie that I had going for years. I had long since forgot about it, but the people I had lied to had indeed not. It was then when I was confronted and made to explain the truth that I fully grasped what the big deal was. I had wasted these individuals time and effort, based on the stories that I had given them. When you tell someone something and it could be anything from " I'll be there in 10 minutes, " to "of course I never slept with that person.", people act accordingly to the information they have been given. So if you say 10 minute they take it as 10 minutes.
A friend a long time ago said, "Alisha, we make decisions based on the information we are given at the time." As I think back on that, I apply it to this topic at hand. This statement is exactly why one should not lie. Because not only are you doing yourself a disservice, you are also impacting those around who are going to be moving forward and making choices based on the lie that you told them. And that is how you are found out, when people make actions out of false words, the outcome is never a good one. And when things breakdown, people go to the source. And no matter how long it takes, people will find the truth. Time wasted, and bitter the outcome is never worth the brief relief a lie can bring you.
Full circle with this point is after my encounter with being confronted by two people I had hurt by lying and the handful of hott guys I could never call back because they had given the cute "British girl" their number, I decided I would no longer be liar. I have nothing to hide, and nothing to apologize for. And if I have nothing else, at least I have my word.